How To Say Hi as an Introvert

Striking up convos as introverts.

Esther Jordan


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It’s a universally accepted fact that extroverts are the life of the party. They’re the ones who walk into a room full of strangers and can immediately start a conversation with each person around them. But what about introverts? Are we doomed to wallflower status forever? The short answer: no! The long answer: yes, but there are ways you can learn how to approach new people in a way that makes it easier for both parties involved.

Tell yourself you don’t have to do this for long.

Remind yourself that you don’t have to stay here. You can leave if you want. You can also sit at your seat or table and enjoy the rest of the event without talking to anyone else. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to break out of your shell. You are allowed to leave events if you feel uncomfortable. You are allowed to not have to talk to anyone if you don’t want to!

Strike up a conversation about your surroundings.

You might ask about the weather, the job they have, or even their hobbies. You can also ask about interests and family.

If you want to be even more personal, you could ask them what their favorite place to eat is or where they like to shop at. This will give you more information that could be used as small talk in future conversations with that person if there are any opportunities for them to come up again.

Compliment something about them.

Complimenting someone is a great way to introduce yourself. You should be sure to compliment something that is unique about the person, like their appearance or personality. You can also compliment their accomplishments, skills and abilities.

Ask an unusual question — yes, really!

Ask an unusual question. You can even start with a simple, “What’s your name?” But then, instead of asking them…



Esther Jordan

Quantumplation. Legal writer. SEO marketer, copy writer & editor of 15 years. High fashion model. Former children and adult special-needs counselor. Risk taker.